BEHAVIOURAL OPTION
FOR CHILDREN OF SEPARATED PARENTS
WHO HAVE NEW PARTNERS AND NEW FAMILIES
WHO SEEM TO GET A BETTER DEAL
This message is aimed at the child of the parent or parents who are separated and have got a new partner and maybe a second family. And keep reading if you feel that the second family seem to get a better deal, where they may come first constantly, in terms of time or money.
The question is of course: how do you deal with this situation without getting yourself into a knot on a regular basis? How do you bring yourself to socialise with the children and new partner of your parent’s second or third life, when you may feel resentment from feeling abandoned when they left you: the original family?
You may feel you’re no longer a priority or less of a priority in the eyes of the parent who now has a second or third partner with a new family. You may choose not to associate with that parent and their new partner or family and that’s fine. You CAN live like that and feel forever separated from the parent in question because you feel they’ve done the wrong thing. (more…)
A CONSCIOUS, COMPASSIONATE PERSON SPENDS LIKE THIS FOR CHRISTMAS
If you want to be a wonderful example of an aware, responsible, conscious and compassionate person…
Who believes that Christmas time is about opening your heart and your pocket for worthy causes…
instead of filling a superficial gap in your friend’s or relative’s life with useless gifts, then…
donate to animal charities, environmental groups or whatever charitable organization that takes your fancy. Use can use this list if you like:
*The Wilderness Society
*Wildlife Victoria
*The Lort Smith Animal Hospital
*Animals Australia
*Humane Research Australia
*WSPA
*Greenpeace
You can go to their website and donate on line or ring them to donate that way.
Please don’t buy things that are likely to be quickly thrown out by the receiver, which means that your money ends up in the rubbish. Think about it. Your money could be used to improve an animal’s life, the environment or a person in need of your care.
A GIVING ATTITUDE
What feeling based skills or attitudes toward others would you like to develop?
What about becoming a more giving person- giving without necessarily getting back…?
Just enjoying the person’s company without helping them to feel like you’re waiting for something from them.
Whatever type of attention you may want from a certain person in your life, when you seem to need it the most, they probably won’t be able to give it to you- not because they don’t want to give it to you, but because they’re going through their own stuff. They’re probably feeling tired or negative on other levels.
In these circumstances, practice your giving attitude and practice thinking the best about the person who may not be able to give to you emotionally at the moments you need it. Give them time, do nice things for them, let them recover and they’ll come back.
When they ‘come back’ you will also have a renewed perception of their energy levels and limits in general and you can factor this in for next time. This can improve your relationship with them.
Developing a giving attitude will save you and will help you to only feel grateful for what another person has to give you. It will also give you a chance to give to yourself which can only help you feel more resourceful and peaceful within yourself.
FEEL GRATEFUL FOR ALL
Feel grateful for the people you have in your life.
Feel grateful for all that you own.
Feel grateful for everything you have available to you.
Feel grateful for all the experiences you have had until this moment.
Feel the gratefulness feeling in your mind body and breathe in.
Now smile.
ASSESSING IF YOU SHOULD STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP
Here are a couple of important points to consider:
If there is a deep connection between the two of you; if you feel you have important things in common; if the person makes you smile on the inside more than anybody you know; if you love them the best and only in the world and you feel they also love you the same way, then these are signs to stay in the relationship.
If this same person can also piss you off and hurt you more than anybody you know, you might wonder if it’s a sign not to stay in the relationship… What to do?
Remember this: Love is the digesting agent for the hardest personal growth lessons and these generally occur within a relationship. Love speeds up learning and makes the learning worthwhile.
The best and right relationships can be those where the love and the difficulty of the lessons seem as strong as each other.
Introduction:
I wanted to share this article below because of its applicability to everybody!
It covers things we all have issues with, and that is feeling stuck in some way, in some area of our life. Steve Pavlina helps you identify the different ways you could be feeling stuck and conveys a strong point about our assessment of our inner growth, can be far from being accurate and closer to denial.
He says virtually all people have relationship, financial, career and health problems and the three main things that keep the problems alive and multiplying is 1: Our being in denial; 2: Feeling disconnected and 3: Our weakness. It’s interesting to see which of the three you are bugged by the most.
Pavlina reminds us that to successfully improve ourselves, we need help from honest, knowledgeable, inspiring people. Whenever I read this article, I’m reminded of my desires and how much more I want to improve my Self and my life; I feel safe to say, it could have this affect on you.
How to Massively Accelerate Your Personal Growth — the Smart Way
Getting stuck is a huge problem with respect to personal growth.
It’s also incredibly common.
People don’t try to get stuck — but somehow it just happens.
No one sets out to get stuck for years in a job they don’t really like. (more…)
The Mind, Body and Spirit festival- the biggest new age expo in Melbourne, is here in a few days. Many people I know can’t wait to go because of the tantalizing things for your senses to enjoy, intriguing products and services for your emotional and spiritual health as well as some enlightening talks to attend, maybe even a psychic reading…
As many times as I’ve been to these expos, I discover things that I’ve never seen before, let alone never heard of existing before. Melbourne is constantly churning out great new stuff that you may not experience anywhere else except at the Mind, Body and Spirit expo. And you can’t miss out on interstate and overseas guests and all the goodies they bring with them.
If you’ve been searching for a new health drink or herb or food that will give your body that fabulous boost but didn’t know where to find it- you’ll find it at the Mind, Body and Spirit expo. (more…)
Future Self Consulting Room
I began reading an article called “The seven weird habits that will change your life” and I didn’t expect to find something that would actually grab me, but this part of the article did: ‘regularly engage in time travel’.
The author, Jonathan Mead, talks about a great method to solve problems is by having a conversation with your future self.
He posed a visualization exercise where you consult your inner guidance (without calling it that in his article). You sit in your favorite chair, close your eyes and imagine walking into a bare room with a card table and two fold out chairs- facing each other. Mead says to sit in the chair closest to you and then see your future self walk into the room… (more…)
I am so happy and grateful now that money comes to me in increasing quantities, from multiple sources on a continuous basis.
I am the sexiest wo/man in the universe.
I am working on my creative passions every day.
I am willing to grow and learn.
I am aware that anger is incorrect and withdraw myself from people in these instances, then communicate when I can do so in a peaceful manner.
I am learning and operating technology easily.
I am excited about my day when I wake up the morning.
Metamorphosis by koan
There is a page on my site called Inspirational Quotes. It would be more accurate to call the page ‘Koans’.
Tom said, “Do you know what a koan is?”
“No,” Shirley MacLaine answered.
“A koan,” said Tom, “is a question which a Zen master will pose to his student to inspire him or her to think more deeply about his own reality. ‘What is the sound of one hand clapping?’ That is a koan. ‘If a tree falls in the forest, does it make a sound if no one is there to hear it?’ That is a koan.
“Koans are intended to stimulate insight… it stimulates investigative thought… you know more about yourself.”
Koans are different to ’signs’ or (more…)
